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The greatest and the most important secret of successful hookups with girls and ladies from Slavic countries is that it is all the same for women around the world. Once you learn the basic rules of hookup that is safe and fun for both of you, you can cross the continents and find a partner in every country you travel to (if you manage to cross the language barrier as well).
Some Slavic women know English quite well, as you will see on sweetydate.com, but it may happen so that a lady you like doesn’t speak it. So before going on a hunt, learn some useful phrases and compliments in the language she speaks (Russian, Ukrainian, Polish, Czech, etc., depending on where you are).
So, know these essential rules, tread lightly, watch out for red lights and hook up a Slavic girl you like successfully.
Yes, when people kept dinosaurs as pets, meeting a girl and flirting with her was possible only in real life. It may seem so distant and old-fashioned now, but actually it took only 10 years or so to fully refurbish the dating and hookup culture for practicing them on the web mostly. People seem to lose the grip of real-life interactions and flirting with strangers, so let’s refresh these commandments in your memory.
Look at her for a couple of seconds (not stare all the time) and smile. Then turn your gaze elsewhere, and then look back at her again. If she looks at you and smiles back, smile, too. Now you can attempt the next step – approaching her.
Please, never, ever approach a girl with some risky or openly vulgar ice-breakers to showcase your ‘sense of humor’ or your image of a playboy. It will end in her snubbing you, politely or not so much, and in creating you the reputation of a clown (in a bad sense). If you try to hook up a girl, smile (but not grin) and say ‘hello’, or ‘hi’, or ‘how’s it going?’. Mention your name casually. A more interesting approach is to say something like ‘I noticed you from my place over there and just wanted to say ‘hi’ to such a pretty (beautiful) lady’. A compliment and a greeting. Not bad. If she smiles back and invites you to take a seat, go ahead, just maintain the neutral small talk, for a starter. If she looks not pleased or even angry or mentions that she waits for someone, you’d better retreat. Test your luck elsewhere.
If things go well for you and she chats with you freely, you can try and make physical contact. It means touching her hand or arm lightly, or her shoulder, or casually touch her back. Just please, do not try brushing her breasts ‘casually’. It borders on harassment and will turn away even an open-minded girl who liked you initially.
If she does not mind your touches and looks relaxed, you’re on the right way. She likes you physically, and sex with her is highly possible. But if she withdraws, asks what it was or something like that, alas, she’s not into it. If you look for an immediate hookup partner, better leave her gracefully (like, ‘nice to meet you, but I have to go now’) and look elsewhere.
If she smiles a lot, fidgets with things, touches her hair often, and looks at you from the corner of her eyes, these are signs she really likes you. If you touched her, she will definitely touch you back, take your hand or complement your looks or items of clothing. She may feel giddy, but you definitely will not blame her.
On the contrary, if she pulls away, looks restrained or uneasy, looks away- she is not in the mood for communication or something else.
Do not pretend to be a superman or a playboy, because it feels fake and disgusting. Be yourself, show that you are a bit unsure and alert but you like her. She feels the same, and it will help you connect better. Be relaxed, talk about casual matters, like a day at work, waiting for weekends or wanting to share a drink with someone like her. Talk about yourself and then ask casually, ‘What about you?’
Yes, your goal is to get a girl to hook up with you fast, but it does not cancel the need to care for the girl’s feelings. Show that you are interested in her body and mind, listen to what she says, respond, laugh when she jokes so that she saw that you care about her as a person. As sweetydate.com advises, ask about her hobbies, her occupation, if she frequents this place, what she likes to have here, what she’s been listening to or watching lately. Then she will be more eager to hook up and enjoy the experience (and make your experience better, too).
If you want to get her in your bed, let her know you really like everything about her, including her clothes, her hair, and her body. Slavic girls invest time and efforts in their looks, and they will be glad to hear sincere compliments. Remember it while planning a hook up with a Slavic girl. Focus on 2-3 things, not more, and compliment them. Make her feel really special and desired. Tell her she has an amazing smile and sensual lips, or that her hair makes you want to touch it. Just do not shower with compliments about everything in her.
What negative thoughts there can be, you may wonder? Plenty of them, but we will mention only the most important ones.
Your fears: your insecurity may prevent you from approaching a girl or chatting to her. That’s no good. Think about your strong sides, about your accomplishments, and compliment yourself. When you feel good about yourself, it is easier to make others feel good, including girls you like. If you go on a hookup adventure with a thought about failure, you will fail. Don’t do that.
Fears of the girl: girls are often insecure about their looks, even if they look gorgeous. Praise her appearance, her style, her fit body, eyes, and smile if you want to make her relaxed and happy. Tell her that she’s amazing and you like everything about her (otherwise you wouldn’t approach her, right?).
Thoughts of pregnancy: these consequences will hit her, not you, so it is your task to tell her that you know and care. Promise to use (and use) condoms if she’s not on the pill. If you show your care about her protection in sex, you can readily ask a girl to hook up and she will follow you.
Honesty about hookup: a girl may hope that it will be the beginning of dating relationships, so tell her honestly what you want. Thus she will know whether to accept the rules of the game or to reject you altogether. She will not nurture hopes that you will not fulfill, and it will remove the negative afterthoughts and even accusations.
If things go well, she laughs, chats, and tries to touch you occasionally, it is time to get to the point. Use some risky and playful lines to show that you actually think about sex with her and want to move to that sweet stage.
If you decide to hook up with Ukrainian girl online, you can use international or local dating sites.
Bars, Clubs, and Restaurants – traditional places to go looking for a girl. But the competition is high there, too.
Coffee shops – no loud music, enough light, and less competition make them perfect places to approach a girl you like.
Shopping malls – girls go there to enjoy themselves while shopping, so you can easily fit into that light mood. Just be polite and do not get offended if they refuse to talk to you – you are a stranger, after all.
Educational locations like colleges and universities (no schools, please) – students also want sex and adventure, just make sure a girl you try to seduce is above 18.
Streets – well, there are pros and cons of it. Women get catcalled often, so they tend to move to the other side of the street to get rid of unwanted suitors. So think carefully about the opening lines you’ll address her with. They should be polite and complimenting. You may even start with an apology, and then say that you just could not help but approach her and tell her how amazing/beautiful she is. Then see how she reacts and act accordingly.
Parties held for a group of friends (if you have a local friend and he is willing to take you with him). If you are in some Slavic country, like Russia, and you have a friend, ask if you could attend some party or gather with him. Girls will be pleased to see a foreigner as a suitor and potential one-night partner. Just be sure not to run into a gold digger when you hook up a Russian girl you see for the first time.
Kenneth O'Riley – a relationship coach and psychologist based in Montreal, Canada. Besides a huge experience of working with couples and singles, Kenneth can share knowledge about Slavic women and the peculiarities of dating ladies from Ukraine and Russia. Our author has Ukrainian origin and lived in Kyiv, Ukraine, for 10 years. Such experience allows us to call him a real expert in Slavic girls and share working tips with you.
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